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[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Hi, Aaron. Do you have a moment to talk? In person.
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:16 pm (UTC)(link)
Library?

[He prefers to be off the communicator, but it's not so private as to need more.]
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:19 pm (UTC)(link)
I'll be in the one closest to the front.

[The other advantage to the library is that he's already there.]
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:22 pm (UTC)(link)
Hey.

[Nathaniel could never talk as informally as Aaron, but he's informal for him, and as ease with the small gaps. He grins at him.]

Now that you're a warden, I thought you might have some useful information. [As if someone being a warden doesn't usually make Nathaniel less likely to talk.]
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:26 pm (UTC)(link)
You could suggest a trust building game where you share strengths and weaknesses.

[An innocent suggestion. Actually, that would be pretty funny. But he does have something specific.]

Have you ever apologized to someone. In a way where you meant it.
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[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:34 pm (UTC)(link)
It would help build trust in your colleagues.

[The rest is a lot less fun. He does expect that apologies often are part of graduation, but his reluctance to give them aren't just because he doesn't feel bad. The 'why' his difficult to talk about, but he thinks Aaron might understand. Not that Nathaniel can bear to say it directly.]

I used to apologize all the time before I got here. It's what people wanted, or what they said they wanted even though it rarely made much of a noticeable difference.
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[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:42 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't think anyone who wanted my apology thought I'd be good because I felt bad. I think they just wanted me to feel bad.

[Obedience by someone who didn't want to offer it had it's own appeal, apparently. He sighs.]

No, not really.
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:50 pm (UTC)(link)
[He scoffs.]

I hope so.

[The idea of looking sweet and innocent is one he doesn't want to get near. Well, unless it really serves his purposes. He frowns, fiddling with a pen.]

I don't feel that I need to. [Other people might disagree.] It's more... After having to apologize for - existence, I'm not sure if I could make an honest apology, even if I wanted to.
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[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 06:59 pm (UTC)(link)
I definitely don't. [Even when it's something he truly feels bad about later, he wouldn't mean the apology. He sighs.]

An apology isn't much, but the other ways people talk about 'making up' for something sound even more questionable.
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 07:04 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, they say stuff about 'action', which I would find deeply suspicious. Besides, I don't think there is action to say 'sorry' about hitting someone with a rock. I get the sense that saying I'd do it again but am choosing not to wouldn't be considered a good 'apology'.
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 07:15 pm (UTC)(link)
I'd use a bigger rock. I don't believe that making an apology would ever make me feel better. But the most effective method of restitution I know is taking care of someone's enemy. ...Which isn't always viewed as completely acceptable. Do you think an insincere apology - said sincerely, obviously - would make someone else feel better?
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 07:21 pm (UTC)(link)
I suppose a lot of people do have low standards.

[He can't make them have higher ones, just because an apology is pretty pathetic.]

Thanks.

[He really does appreciate the perspective of someone he likes and who he suspects of understanding... relatively normal in a way that most of his friends don't.]
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Re: Private

[personal profile] mandrakeroot 2024-01-19 07:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Exactly. All the stuff I've done that people like my warden would probably say I should apologize for was done to... settle a matter which I felt required an 'apology' for them.

[That's another reason he has no interest in apologizing. He settled that debt himself, which is how it should be.]

In my world, people used to call each other out for duels. I think that's a much better way to put something to rest.

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